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First of all, thank you for taking the time to look over this information! Before your initial consultation, identify specific behaviors that you wish to change.

WRITE THEM DOWN AND BRING TO THE MEETING

Depending on your goal, if it's something like "I want to stop smoking" etc., this could be as simple as one or two lines.

Your written goals and plans don’t need to be perfectly accurate or complete; just do your best. It could even be one line written on a napkin, like “I want ______”. We can modify or figure out the details later! Back of an envelope is fine.

Brief is good. Bullet-points are great. If you're not a bullet-point person, even just doodling something on paper would be great, too, maybe even better.

But a two-page grocery-list of problems means nothing has priority, you haven’t made up your mind about what you really want. Or, it can be an attempt to impress people with the overwhelming drama in your life - that won’t work… we avoid reinforcing “woe is me” storytelling.

If your intention involves something like "I want to be confident" --- that isn't a behavior, that's just a wish. Confidence is an end-result of engaging in behaviors which, over time, enable reasonable predictions of outcome.. or, it's the natural result of resolving some internal conflict and resistance. Just wishing for confidence usually leads nowhere; it's "putting the cart before the horse".


Q: "What if I'm trying to reduce fear or anxiety? What kind of behavior should I go after?"

Typically, people just want to "get rid" of a fear or anxiety that's hindering them. But for real change, just hoping to "get rid" of something is not a complete plan.

Instead, the goal could be stated as "I want to develop an automatic relaxation response" or "I want to remain calm when things go wrong" or "I want to stop avoiding _______". This requires active development of certain capabilities in your nervous system.. hypnosis can be of great help establishing that pattern, but in the long run you'd better develop a regular practice of maintaining that conditioning.

Otherwise it is like someone saying "I want to get stronger, but I don't want to do any heavy lifting!"


Do This IF-THEN Written Exercise To More Than DOUBLE Your Chances Of Success

Once you identify your goals, then you can plan how to get there. A list of goals without a plan is little more than a wish list. So,

Construct an explicit set of IF-THEN rules for your brain to follow.


Here is a one-page template you can use:
CLIENT GOALS AND BENEFITS


NOTE: THIS IS ​NOT​ A "IF I MAKE A MILLION DOLLARS, THEN I WILL TRAVEL THE WORLD" WISH-LIST.. LEAVE THAT STUFF TO SANTA CLAUS.. THIS IS ABOUT SPECIFIC CHANGES AT SPECIFIC POINTS TO ALTER EXISTING PATTERNS AND ROUTINES.

When someone is unwilling to identify and commit to specific changes in their behavior, it shows they want different results in life, but aren't willing to DO anything different.

In multiple research studies, people who wrote IF-THEN rules more than DOUBLED their chances of actually getting results that they wanted.

This isn't too surprising because if you're not clear and specific about what you want to make happen, then why would you expect your brain to know what to do when the time comes? You've heard about "programming" yourself... well, programming is all about IF-THEN statements.

Choosing to ignore the IF-THEN exercise means you are choosing to reduce your chances of success by more than half! I don't know why anyone would do that, but that's their choice.


FEAR OF GOAL-SETTING and PLANNING?

I understand some people are afraid to commit to written goals, but again, don't worry about getting it exactly right.

The fact is, no plan survives contact with reality. Writing things down is meant to sharpen and clarify thinking, and to demonstrate to YOUR subconscious your seriousness of intent. When someone is unwilling to take a few moments to organize one's thoughts by putting pen to paper, that is obviously a bad sign.

Goal-setting is not meant to trap you into a limited set of options. It is part of cycling between intense focused work vs. relaxation and recovery; alternating between clear targets and fuzzy thinking makes use of both modes of thought (left-brain / right-brain, to use a very simplified cliche). Some people are unbalanced towards being TOO goal-oriented.. but most people tend towards being too fuzzy or unclear.

You don't have to think of this written exercise as "homework" that you turn in to someone else. It's for YOUR benefit.


Don't be scared by the idea of developing a system or process, it doesn't have to be about flowcharts or spreadsheets, unless you're into that sort of thing.

It could just be committing to a plan of daily practice such as keeping a log book, prayer, affirmations, push-ups, "raising one's vibrational level", etc. Making use of the "magical" or "intuitive" approaches in a methodical manner can work very well. Trusting the universe to Give what you Ask for, true faith demonstrated by engaging in some regular practice, seems to increase one's "Luck Factor".


OPTIONAL ACTIVITY for GO-GETTERS (and the rest of us):

If your hypnotic purpose involves something more than just ending a simple habit or fear, I would highly recommend making sure to clearly outline your goals in relation to personal identity, behavior and values.

This is also recommended if the habit is connected to "boredom" or "emptiness". It is harder to get rid of habits if you have let yourself lead a boring, directionless life. It's a bad idea to expect someone else (especially a dumb hypnotist like me) to come along and provide you with purpose and direction in life. NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU.

So, ask yourself, ideally in writing:

One representation of BEing:

VISION / PURPOSE / VALUES
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GOALS
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TASKS / BEHAVIORS / HABITS


Failure to attend to each layer leads to disconnection and weakening of structural integrity, expressed by failures of personal integrity, ie. not doing what you said you were going to do.

Symptoms of misalignment: boredom, procrastination, New Year's Resolutions, "I need motivation/confidence", being addicted to self-help.


Depending on your purpose, it can be helpful to clear your environment before your first appointment.

Example: if you want to stop smoking, then get rid of ashtrays, lighters, matches and packs you have stashed away at home or in the car… or if you want to lose weight or improve eating habits, clean out the fridge and the kitchen cabinets of junk before your appointment.


Thank You

THANK YOU! I LOOK FORWARD TO MEETING YOU!

PS. I’m running an experiment where I’m breaking the habit / common social ritual of shaking hands. So please do not be offended if I decline to shake your hand; it’s nothing personal, and it’s not a “germ thing”.



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